The natives in the Herr household, are restless.
(You probably couldn’t tell, from this sweet girl’s smile though)
I’m sure our kids aren’t the only ones. It’s probably a little something to do with it being the end of a busy summer, and a little bit of just kids being kids. But I have to admit, this mama is getting tired of the seemingly constant bickering and complaining. And so, I thought I’d share a three things that have helped our kids recently. It’s not a perfect formula, but it has made a difference, and hopefully might help others too.
1. Pull them close. I’ll be the first to admit it. When my kids are cranky, the first thing I want to do is to get away. I’ll send them up to their rooms, or away from each other and definitely away from me. Because cranky is catching and I have a natural aversion to it, especially when presented in the hearts of my kids. But the other day, after a particularly frustrating conversation with our son, I paused. Granted, we were in the car, so I had no way to get away from it. But I realized, that maybe instead of pushing away, I needed to pull him close. So, through slightly clenched teeth, I asked him an engaging question. And what slowly unfolded was a redeeming conversation that soon enough had erased the tension and brought smiles to us both. It might not work everytime, but it did work in that situation, and made me think twice about how I react to those times.
2. Bring on the fun. I asked the kids to help me clean up the house today. They are certainly at ages, where they can do quite a few things around the house, and today was definitely a day that I could use a few extra hands. Almost instantly, the grumpy looks came, and those small complaints that would soon grow began as well. I was ready to give one of my mom speeches, when an idea hit me. Backing up, our kids have really enjoyed watching The Amazing Race this summer. And so I realized, that I could make cleaning, a fun game for them. And it worked. Christian was totally into it. “Mom, you can make us clues and roadblocks and we will do what they say,” he said with eagerness. So I did. Many of them covered chores that needed to get done, like sorting laundry and cleaning Ellee’s room. And then in between those ones, were fun things, like skating ten laps on their rollerblades without falling and eating a Popsicle for a pit stop break. It was a mini miracle. Instead of fighting, they were laughing and working together and having fun doing chores. Now I get it, not everything needs to be made into a game. But this totally gave me a good two hours of my kids having fun while getting things done and it was well worth the effort.
3. Pray… A Lot. When our kids’ hearts are struggling, probably the best thing I can do for them, is to pray for them. God knows their hearts better than I do, and He loves them even more. And so what could be better than asking Him to help during restless and challenging times?
And that’s what I’ve got. As I said before, not a perfect formula, but something that has helped us, and something that might help your family too. Thanks so much for stopping by. I truly am thankful for the kindness and encouragement that I get from writing this blog. I probably don’t say it enough, but I do appreciate it so much.