All my friends…

“All my friends are better readers than me,” she quietly whispered as we drove home tonight.  “Wait… what? No, they’re not,” was my hasty, slightly-confused, response.  “Yes, they are,” she tearfully responded.

It’s so, so hard when we see our children struggle.

I paused, while her tears rolled down, and my mother’s heart broke just a little bit.


But just for a moment or two.  And then, it was all, “Ellee… you are amazing.  You are fearfully and wonderfully made.  You are smart and you are kind.  You have the most beautiful heart I know.”  And I confidently reminded her of the moments that she has touched lives and hearts and made a difference in her world.


I remind her that God will give her the strength to do the hard things in life.  Because there will be hard things.  And there will be struggle.  But there will also be so much to learn through that struggle.


And while we don’t like to see our children struggle, we know in our hearts that it’s a good thing.  We know that they will be strengthened.  We know that it might be uncomfortable at times, but what good is a life that’s completely comfortable?


As I plowed ahead, with my truths and encouragement, I remembered our last College Group lesson, based off of an amazing sermon by Andy Stanley.  I was reminded that there is “No ‘win’ in comparison.”  That it doesn’t matter what everyone else is doing.  That trying to be like everyone else is like chasing after the wind.  And that it’s most important to live with one hand open to receive what God gives, than to have two handfuls of toil and wind chasing (Ecclesiastes 4:6).  “Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing,” I shared,  “You have so many gifts and talents that God will use for good.”  Live open-handed, Ellee Girl.


The tears stopped.  And her confidence grew.  And we both agreed, that she would have to be a hard worker, when it comes to reading.  Because in this life, we have to work hard  If it’s not reading, it will be something else.  We talked about our very dearest friend Emily, who loves Jesus, and is beautiful and hard-working.  Ellee loves Emily, and so do I, and her life inspires us.  And soon, Ellee’s little smile returned.  And life went on.


As I continue through this journey, of life and parenthood, I’m thankful for the hard times.  We’ve all been there.  We’ve all felt the sting of comparison and struggle.  But that being said, I’m thankful that our daughter, will be strengthened in her struggles.  I’m thankful that she and I can strive to live open-handed, ready for whatever God will bring.

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I love Jesus, my Youth Pastor Husband and our two beautiful children. I'm a professional photographer and I love people, especially kids. My best days include time with my family, Hot Yoga and a Mint Chocolate Chip ice cream cone.

4 thoughts on “All my friends…”

  1. Tell Ellee that she needs to come visit Aunt Leslie. She could help James learn to read and have fun reading with Anna. Give her a big hug and tell her we love her!

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